If you’ve been looking for tips on how to handle difficult work colleagues, then you are in the right place. Here are 9 quick tips to show you how.
How has your relationship with your work colleagues been so far? Have trouble with a work colleague who keeps pestering you about your job? It is bad enough when it comes from a manager but worse when it is from the same-level colleague.
This behavior can derail your productivity and affect your job performance. It is definitely unacceptable. Learn to deal with it from scratch before it generates into a major issue.
In these 9 tips below, you will learn how to handle this type of problem when dealing with the same people with whom you are pursuing the same agenda or goal at work by:
- Identifying the Cause of Conflict
- Get a Second Opinion
- Discussing The Issue
- Keeping The Problem Separate
- Follow Company Procedure
- Using ‘I’ in Your Wording
- Keeping It Private
- Reaching a Resolution
- Following Up
1. Identify Cause of Conflict
You must first identify what type of person is causing the discomfort. Some people are just nosy wanting to fish out details for themselves to help them get ahead in the pack. Others are merely bossy wanting to be seen as the leader among the pack. Yet, some others just don’t like you, they cannot stand your attitude, performance or sometimes your excel. You need to identify the type of person causing you this problem and their reason for doing so. That is the first stage in identifying what will be done further.
2. Get a Second Opinion
Talk about it with a confidant to give you their honest opinion about the situation.
You can discuss the issue with someone you trust to give you their honest opinion about the issue. Usually, a close friend can give you the answer you need to get. If you think he/she will be biased to you do not ask that person. Find an honest friend’s opinion and move on with that.
3. Discuss The Issue
Discuss the issue with your colleague in a manner to reach a common solution
The whole process is to get you to a common place where there will be an understanding between you and your colleague. Approach your colleague calmly and lay the situation out to him/her. Openly let him understand how unhappy you are with the situation and how much you would want it solved amicably. Do not be bias in your opinion, be open to the other person’s perspective.
4. Keep The Problem Separate
Keep the problem separate from your other work-related issues
Talk about the issue at hand. Try not to involve other matters that may have occurred already. Reason only with facts, avoid emotional sentiments, an old grudge, other people’s encounter with your difficult colleague. Do not refer to any past event also. Focus only on the current problem.
5. Follow Company Procedure
Work through the company’s laid out corporate conflict resolution processes.
Go to your supervisor if need be so they are made aware of the situation. Follow procedures in making complaints as per the company’s policies. If there are no laid down policies, you can discuss it with your supervisor straight away.
6. Use ‘I’
Use ‘I’ instead of ‘You’ to avoid a confrontational situation that could ultimately turn argumentative.
When you are expressing how you feel about the situation, let it be about your side of the matter. Avoid turning the situation into an argument at all costs.
7. Keep It Private
Do not discuss it openly with other colleagues.
Be courageous. Do not make excuses by avoiding the subject. Confront the situation at hand. You do not need an open discussion with the entire staff. This can generate into a whole argument and leave you confused with varied ideas as to how to handle the situation.
8. Reach a Resolution
You need to get to a final destination with the process. Do not leave the discussion hanging to attend to it later. Some people react late to discussions so once you leave the situation hanging it can generate into other things. Calmly but courageously reach a solution. You deserve to feel good in the work environment to be effective. You do not need to compromise when your work environment is at risk of affecting your job performance. Be consistent in saying if you are not okay with a behavior. Do not allow it sometimes.
9. Follow Up
Follow up after the conversation to make sure your colleague is doing okay. To navigate the workplace successfully you need to learn to manage relationships and resolve conflicts amicably. A follow up on your colleague ensures the peaceable relationship you need to continue working together
It is very important to learn how to handle difficult work colleagues if you want to grow your corporate career. In the end, it is about getting the work done. Level things up and be at your very best at work!!! You deserve that.
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